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National Adoption Month

November 3, 2007 · 10 Comments

It’s National Adoption Month again. Huzzah.

How about we do this to celebrate:

Equal Access to Birth Records

Categories: Adoption

10 responses so far ↓

  • cerebralmum // November 3, 2007 at 7:00 PM | Reply

    What a wonderful video. I recall reading a study recently about how adoptive parents handle informing their children of their history, at it was worrying how few parents told them, or how late they told them.

    My situation is a little different. I was half-adopted. My natural mother’s second husband legally adopted us at a young age and we left the country where my natural father and his family lived. I am fortunate that I cannot recall a time of ever not knowing where and who I came from. I was fortunate to have a mother who enriched my life with my history, that I always felt connected to the diaspora of my family.

    I am even more grateful for this now, having a son who will likely never know his father. Regardless of when or where or if, my son ever meets him physically, I will be doing my best to fill all the gaps in his knowledge. I know how important the past and the people gone from my life are to me. I hope that I can give my son that gift, the same way my mother did.

    And if adoptive children are not given that gift while the grow to adulthood, surely it is their right to receive it as adults.

  • Eve // November 3, 2007 at 7:44 PM | Reply

    Cerebralmum, thanks for sharing a little more about yourself and your thoughts on this matter. It’s nice to think about your mother enriching your life with history and connecting the dots for you, so to speak.

  • renaissanceguy // November 3, 2007 at 7:56 PM | Reply

    As an adoptive parent I fully support the rights of adopted children to obtain their records. They have a right to know who they are, and–like it or not–knowing about our origins and our physical heritage is part of it.

    My heart really aches for those who can never know, such as a little girl that we know who was abandoned by her biological mother.

  • Theresa // November 3, 2007 at 8:09 PM | Reply

    Thank you so much for posting this video.

  • Eve // November 3, 2007 at 8:20 PM | Reply

    RG, my heart, too. I know that not every adopted child can have his or her history–many kids are abandoned. But there’s no excuse for our not giving them their information if we have it, eh?

  • Eve // November 3, 2007 at 8:25 PM | Reply

    Theresa, you’re welcome! I was reading your blog today; wow, it’s powerful. You made me consider bringing my adoption writing over from my (now defunct) mothering blog and posting it here, just because.

    I’m rarely sure how I end up on someone’s blog… but I do think that someone who reads here (probably Tired Mummy) already posted the video. I followed the trail of comments to your blog, which I liked so much I promptly subscribed.

    It will probably take me several years of blogging to be able to produce a robust picture of how I feel and think about adoption. I’ve gone through many evolutions in my thinking and arrived at a place I would not have predicted 15-20 years ago in my adoption advocacy days.

    Anyway, thanks for dropping by and I hope to get to know you better in the future.

  • deb // November 3, 2007 at 8:42 PM | Reply

    A friend of mine helped make this video up. I had it on my blog a short while ago.

  • Eve // November 4, 2007 at 12:53 AM | Reply

    Hey, Deb. That’s right… I was reading through your whole blog bit by bit earlier today.

    So much of what you write resonates with me… middle age (you’ve got to read the James Hollis book I recently wrote about)… your daughters.

    I’m glad we’ve met.

  • justenjoyhim // November 4, 2007 at 4:29 PM | Reply

    Absolutely agree.

  • deb // November 4, 2007 at 9:00 PM | Reply

    I had forgotten about that book. Thanks for reminding me, I just ordered it.

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